The shops at the mall haven’t conspired to force young women to misuse their sexuality. Not too long ago we collectively decided that moral constraints on women’s sexuality were unfair, and tossed them aside. What we are seeing now is where this lack of moral constraint is taking us. Women are being tempted by the culture, but they are being tempted to do something any student of the Old Testament should understand. They are being tempted to do things our great grandmothers understood. We can’t even think let alone use the word harlot, yet we have sluts marching down main-street.I was listening to Family Life Today on the radio recently, and something that one of the guests said was quite interesting: One of the unintended negative effects of feminism upon women (and men) has been a profound sense of abandonment. Not only abandonment in the sense of physical and/or social isolation (which has been on the increase for both sexes), not only abandonment in the sense of a lack of intimate relationships (also on the increase for both sexes), but abandonment in the sense that precious few within the Church or without would bother to keep women from sinning. For various reasons, society and the Church readily lecture men as to the error of their ways, but are very reluctant to do so for women, with the effect that women are then "given over" more easily to their sin with nary a warning or worse, the active teachings of Churchian doctrine.
While it is true that it is a challenge for a modest woman to find suitable clothing, the reason for this isn’t because men or evil capitalists have colluded to keep modest clothing away from the rack, it is because the vast majority of women are choosing immodest clothing out of a desire to misuse their sexual power.
We don’t help women by denying all of this, or by repeatedly telling women they are beautiful no matter what and begging them to believe it. We don’t help women by adopting their own blind spot regarding their temptation to sin. We help women by manning up and helping them be honest about their own temptations to sin, and we help them by teaching them what God finds beautiful.
The problem isn’t that modern women want to be beautiful, nor is it that they aren’t told enough how beautiful they are, how special they are, or how perfect they are. The problem is that modern women aren’t focusing their desire to be beautiful in the right ways. They shouldn’t strive to be beautiful for the other women around them, nor for the men they meet in public. They should strive to be beautiful to the Lord, and to be beautiful to their own husbands.
Dalrock's quote above seems to be of an operative example of the abandonment described by the radio guest. Contra the bleating of feminist agitators and their cartoonish claims of misogyny behind every tree and under every rock, there is precious little "positive" misogyny (i.e., overt, conscious, intentional hatred of women) in our culture today. However, "negative" misogyny--indifference, reluctance to intervene, and / or speak the Truth when a woman or women is doing something patently stupid, detrimental, and harmful to their mental, physical, or spiritual selves--abounds.
That is real misogyny, the sort that does far more harm due to its insidious nature. Not the occasional catcall or other eruptions of the so-called "patriarchy".