Lifeboat Feminism
Back from the boats...the first man that touches a boat, I'll brain. Women and children first, men
Quote from W.D. O'Connor's Harrington, 1860.
I am not a wymmin's studies major. Nor do I have much formal schooling in the theory and history of feminism. As such, I do not know with much certainty if the first wave feminists advocated true equality (equal rights and equal responsibilities) between men and women. They may very well have done so, but whether or not they did is irrelevant today because the successors to First Wave feminism most certainly do not strive for de jure and de facto equality between the sexes.
As the quote above indicates, the chivalrous among us--usually men, but women play a key supporting/reinforcing role--value women and children more than themselves. In this view, men are disposable, and men should sacrifice their time, wealth, comfort, even their very lives, so as to ensure that women, the women's (note, not the man's) children, even society in general, benefit from their gallantry.
As it so happens, women, feminist and non-feminist alike, generally are in agreement that that men should bear the brunt of boosting women onto a pedestal. The non-feminist thinks that this is just the natural "just so" order of things, and the Second and subsequent Wave Feminist lobbies for the acquisition of political privileges over the disposable male because she knows that it isn't. The result, then, is that feminism is not a political movement that seeks the legal and social equality of women in which women and men are legally equal in all respects, but is instead a political movement that seeks to accrue advantages to itself while attempting to bestow new disadvantages upon, or cement existing disadvantages for, men. It is a movement of, by, and for chauvinists, looking to make their position all the more superior, and no never-mind is paid to the male corpses left strewn in its wake. What's more, to the disappointment of men searching for allies in this political death match, the non-feminist isn't bothered much by the feminist's agitations--in fact, while she may tut-tut at the methods, she herself gladly reaps the benefits. She is nonetheless happily content to reap the collateral benefits from feminist jockeying for political power over men, all while ignoring or rationalizing away the deleterious effect that such political acquisitiveness has had on the men around her.
I've commented upon this phenomenon here at EW before, in a post titled "Boats and Votes". While I certainly understand how feminists can adhere to this hypocritical viewpoint, in that post, I sadly observed that even Christian women appear to have drunken the fembot kool-aid and demand entitlements and advantages over their brothers while simultaneously demanding that their brothers serve them, even die for them. And as far as I can tell, nothing has changed wrt women's attitudes in this regard. The message is: serve us, placate us, cater to our neuroses, or we won't bother with you. You are a fish to our bicycle.
These attitudes appear to be set in stone, anchored in the bedrock of our culture, immovable.
Or maybe not.
While it is possible that it is wishful thinking, perhaps I am detecting a minor foreschock on the cultural seismograph, in that this obtuse notion, this chivalrous hangover, of feminine entitlement to boats (a literal and euphemistic reference to the privileges afforded women in Western patriarchal cultures) and votes (privileges and advantages bestowed upon women by a matriarchal government) is now starting to be critiqued in in the wider media. As an example, I give you Kevin Myers, writing in the Irish publication the Independent, about the Lifeboat Feminism he witnesses in his own country:
So...we see what the official, government-sponsored version of Irish feminism has mutated into: the cry of the officers on the deck of the foundering Titanic -- "Women and Children First". But at least in those days there was a coherent moral order behind that command. Children were children, and women were seen to be weaker and inferior and thus voteless; gentlemen of all classes would naturally stand back and give them places in the lifeboats first.
If there is a coherent moral order to the present thoughts of the National Women's Council, it is that words no longer mean what they used to. In the Council's prospectus for the year 2009, the word "equality" is used 38 times. Yet clearly, in the sisters' deviant vocabulary, "equality" does not mean equality of pain, or hardship or suffering or poverty. No: it means the opposite of equality. It means a protection from these conditions, regardless of what men are enduring. In other words, lifeboat-feminism, surely the most ignoble and unprincipled of all the many liberal political creeds which dominate our ethos today.
And no, the NCWI press release doesn't mean "mothers", it makes no mention of mothers, not even once. Though interestingly enough, it refers to "women and children" four times, and to "women" just three times. Psychologically, this is simply placing women at the protected level of children, just as was done on the Titanic: quite an achievement for a state-subsidised feminist body in 2009, if a largely unsurprising one.
One need only to look around to see that this sort of lifeboat feminism is all around us. In the USA, feminists consistently wrap their rhetoric in "women and children" terms, get pissed when programs are set up for the ostensible benefit of men while crowing about programs and government money spent for the exclusive benefit of women, and even have their own council on women and girls in the Executive Branch. They have multiple federal offices dedicated to improving their health. And they complain incessantly about the pay gap, which I have shown to work in favor of women instead of against them, and in any case is a direct result of their own choices.
All this while men die earlier at far higher rates from every class of disease, and spending on men's health lags significantly lags spending on women's health. In addition, women are routinely let off the hook for crimes (scroll to bottom) (also here)--that is, if they are even arrested at all--which send men to jail for comparatively longer terms. Furthermore, only men are required to register for the draft...interestingly enough, legislation that would probably have required women to register as well was defeated by a conservative woman--and cheered by her conservative sisters who didn't want responsibilities to come with those rights--in 1973. And men are routinely evicted from their families for no other crime than allowing his wife to become unhappy, and have their children stripped from them with the full cooperation of the state (which takes its cut of the largess that women garner from the transaction). As Robert Franklin of Glenn Sacks writes, it is noteworthy that the biggest opponents to a father's equal status in the family hail from the feminist camp themselves.
Blogger Novaseeker was absolutely spot on in his observation that feminism has operated to permit women to invade the male social and legal spaces, without ceding any territory of their own. As such, women are now able to vote and be breadwinners, soldiers, pilots, politicians, housewives, and play against men in sports. But men are rarely permitted female privileges such as being a homemaker, taking time off for family, or being exempt from military service on the basis of sex or young children at home, or, increasingly, to occupy the same floor as women in hotels or the same car in subways in several countries.
Feminism is evil because it seeks to garner privileges for women at the expense, sometimes fatal in their effects, of men.

9 Comments:
Very well said, EW.
It seems clear enough, if someone is willing to step back far enough to get some perspective on the total picture, that women have simply stapled together the privileges they had accreted over the centuries as the protected class with new-found political, economic and educational rights. The ceded nothing -- not one iota. The trick pulled to do this was to convince people that the "male sphere" (that is the world of work, education and politics) was the only sphere that mattered when assessing equality between the sexes -- and to therefore fight the "battle for equality" solely in that sphere, and completely ignore the other, utterly female-dominated, sphere. As I wrote elsewhere (in your link), this means women kept their own power base and colonized the male sphere, in effect -- a situation that could never lead to equality.
The interesting thing is that while women genuinely want their husbands to do more around the house and with kids, this is in the form of "assistance", *not* power. Women want more help with their kids and homes. But they do NOT want to cede power over the kids to their husbands. Not in the least. The core of the female power base is the power over the children -- as the saying goes, "the hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world". That is the core of the female sphere, and female control over that has been consolidated at every turn over the entire history of the feminist movement.
Prior to first wave feminism, the presumption -- shocking to people today - was father custody, not mother custody. Fathers were better able to provide for the well-being of the children -- per the thought of the day. One of the main issues of the early feminists was mother custody, and gradually the trend moved away from father custody and towards mother custody. In other words, women consolidated female power over the "women's sphere" of children and home life as a central part of first wave feminism, before moving on from there, in the second wave and beyond, to colonize the male space. Women had no intention in the 1970s, and certainly have no intention now, of ceding any of the power they gained with respect to the female space back to men. To the contrary, female power over children and home life has solidified in many different ways: no-fault divorce, child support and enforcement, marital rape laws, sexual harassment laws and so on -- women control these areas of life (sex, children, relationship, family) with an iron fist today -- a breathtakingly totalitarian grip on a huge swathe of human life and experience is under the complete and utter domination of women. And they will not cede any of that power back easily.
It is good that more people -- men, mostly, but some women as well -- are waking up to what has actually happened here. It has been nothing more than a sweeping power grab in favor of women -- consolidating in the female sphere, while legitimizing sex equality only in the previously male sphere. Essentially, women decided to fight the gender war solely on the male battlefield -- and were able to pull that off because of chivalry, and the sense that women *should* control sex, children, relationships and family life. That more men are realizing this is a good thing. It will be an uphill battle to change any of this, because when you look at it from the species level, this is a millenial type of power grab by the female sex -- probably the biggest power grab by human females since the dawn of our species. They will be loathe to give up any of these gains, despite the obvious inequalities that have resulted from them. Nevertheless we need to raise awareness -- and it's great to see stories popping up in the MSM about this.
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On the disposable male, I do think that unfortunately many women (and many men too!) do view men as disposable relative to women. This could be biological in basis, or it could be cultural, and based on chivalry and Victorian notions of men and women. But either way, I think that the thought is there. That thought needs to be fought, but we have to find the best way to formulate an attack on it without looking like cads. That's the challenge, it seems to me.
The feminist forces are gathering to silence Kevin Meyers and he has requested that we support him.
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I've sent a letter off and I would encourage others to do the same. We can't sit idly by as the feminists try to silence our voices from the MSM.
Very well said, EW.
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Second. Thanks for all the links too; lots of material there.
I just sent a couple of letters to Myers and the Independent as well. It doesn't take but a few minutes and that's a cause well worth supporting. We need all the allies we can get when it comes to opposing the idiocy that is feminism.
I looked at a bit of Myers' other work too, and he certainly seems like he has a head on his shoulders. He's not afraid to call out BS anywhere, including his government and his own colleagues. His is a very rare kind in mainstream journalism these days.
Thanks pjanus. I just pulled the trigger on mine.
Thank you gentlemen. Let's hope he gets enough support.
I have read this post several times (as well as the related post over at Biblical Manhood) and it leaves me with a vague question that I'm not sure I can articulate with regard to chivalry. I am referring not to governmental policy, but more toward interactions between people. If I am in need of assistance, for example if I am being mugged, and a man is walking by and I want him to help me is that inequitable? Or if I am in the grocery store and I can't reach something on an upper shelf and I ask a man walking by to reach it for me? I guess I am wondering where the line of unreasonable expectation crosses common courtesy and concern for a fellow human being.
I hope that made sense.
Hi Learner. You raise a great question that I haven't quite settled in my mind just yet.
The trouble with all this out-gassing about chivalry is that a lot of chivalry is simply good manners. Another part of chivalry is the training of males to use their generative gifts for good and not evil, to help and not harm. The trick I think is to jettison the pedestalizing nature of chivalry without disposing of all of the behaviors that make civilization civilized.
Thus, if someone, male or female, were being mugged or otherwise attacked, depending on the situation (# of threats, my relative advantage--i.e. do I have my gun, do I have the element of surprise, how hostile is law enforcement to citizens defending themselves, etc), I may intervene.
I regularly hold doors open for people. Male or female.
I would also help someone, male or female, with getting something down, if asked. I think I've been asked maybe twice, usually by women much older than I, so it doesn't happen very often.
I do not voluntarily surrender my seat on a bus unless they are elderly or clearly infirm. Or if they're obviously war vets...those fellows deserve the respect and honor.
Where I draw the line I think is the expectation of extraordinary male beneficience toward women. I expect common courtesy from men and women, and they should expect the same, but to expect beyond that would be offensive in this day and age of equality. Particularly since women are my rivals in the workplace and in society. I treat them the same as I would a man. With respect...as long as she continues to deserve it.
EW,
"Where I draw the line I think is the expectation of extraordinary male beneficience toward women. I expect common courtesy from men and women, and they should expect the same, but to expect beyond that would be offensive in this day and age of equality."
Thanks for the clarification. This seems quite reasonable to me and it seems to be "the golden rule" essentially (though I may ask a man to do something for me that I could not do for him in return, like something requiring a lot of physical strength).
I'm not sure why, but I frequently am asked to help other people in public. Older ladies often ask for my help in stores, I get asked for directions all the time, and am often mistaken for an employee in stores and asked to help. I think maybe I appear un-threatening or something.
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