I think we exaggerate the degree to which the sexes are mired in conflict. As Henry Kissinger once said, “Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There’s too much fraternizing with the enemy.” We men want our wives and daughters to encounter opportunity in the workplace, not sexual harassment; women want their husbands and sons to be in the executive suite, not jail. Nearly all of us root for fairness, not for our own sex.Kristof's Pollyanna-ish take on the battle of the sexes displays either an astounding ignorance of the facts or blatant self-deception in the face of those facts. Either way, his missive suggests that alpha men like him aren't concerned with the fate of their brothers because they simply do not perceive a problem.
The truth is that we men have typically benefited as women have gained greater equality. Those men who have lost their jobs in the recession are now more likely to have a wife who still has a job and can keep up the mortgage payments. And women have been particularly prominent in the social sector, devising new programs for the mostly male ranks of the jobless or homeless.
So forget about gender war and zero-sum games. Odds are that we men will find a way to hold our own, with the help of women. And we’ll benefit as smart and talented women belatedly have the opportunity to deploy their skills on behalf of all of humanity — including those of us with Y chromosomes
Beta and lower men may as well be invisible to men like Kristof, except for the losers that deserve to be in jail. This is because alphas like Kristof assume that all men have it just like they do...comfy existences with plenty of female attention, and conclude that being a guy in this day and age isn't so bad. It's classic projection, and a convenient way of defining into oblivion the problems that accompany the widespread disenfranchisement of lower-strata men.
The truth of the matter is that much of women's gains have come at the direct expense of beta and lower men, particularly in the social and legal spheres, where gender parity has given way to government-enforced feminine advantage. Women see no reason to help their y-chromo bretheren, especially when they still see men as the oppressor class holding them down--ironically when beta men's labors and alpha-granted privilege prop them up--and will not cotton well to the idea that they will now have to support 'slacker men'.
But not to worry. In the Darwinian battle for the fittest societies, those societies that reproduce, those that best harness the energies of its men are those that endure. And the alpha male-led matriarchal construct that Western society has devolved to is clearly inferior to other, more vigorous societies. While I won't hazard a guess as to how long the present social construct will limp along, it is clear to me that its days are numbered, both socially and economically.