[W]omen "raping" men is gibberish. It all rests on the feminist lie that the sexes are equal. Please, let's be intellectually honest and admit that women cannot rape men. The female equivalent to rape is not forced sex at all but rather cuckoldry, which robs men of real reproductive resources. Pretending sperm itself of sex with a man has some great value or traumatizing power simply isn't honest, and it is a great red herring for the feminists to deflect attention from issues that really hurt men.In a perfect world, I would agree with Mr. Berge. The idea of a woman raping a man would be non-sensical in a socio-legal environment where rape is defined as a penis forcibly entering a vagina to which the owner is not married; unfortunately, this environment no longer exists.
It is also a very foolish tactic to go along with the feminists on this in the hope that it will backfire on them, since it only legitimizes their redefinition of rape and provides the illusion that men need these new sex laws too, which is exactly what the feminists want. Haven't you noticed how feminists are the first to promote this charade at every opportunity? You are a useful idiot for the feminists while I am trying to preserve some sanity by resisting the feminist lie that women raping men is a huge problem. We can't fight feminist sex law reform by amplifying their bullshit. Instead we need to make it perfectly clear that the traditional definition of rape is the correct one, which required not just lack of consent but real violence or serious threats, and it sure did not include women raping men. Don't you think men would have thought of it at some point in history before feminists invented the concept in the late 20th century if men really needed legal protection from women "raping" them? Are feminists your greatest heroes since you feel the need to defer to them like that?
Moreover, socially the trend is toward androgyny in manner of dress and in customs and away from distinct gender roles of masculine and feminine. Whereas in the past women may have engaged in domestic violence at rates far less than men, today, the evidence argues for parity in IPV and in some cases points toward women as the primary aggressor sex. Similarly, the sex responsible for initiating sex has changed; while men are still expected to be the initiator in relationships, women are sexually more assertive, even aggressive, than in times past.
Further, I think Mr. Berge would agree with me that the crime of "rape" is itself being replaced by the far more general "sexual assault", to account for the trend of expanding the concept of rape to encompass a wide range of sexual acts performed without the consent of the alleged victim. Even so-called "marital rape", an act that itself used to be an oxymoron in the Christian west, is in post-Christian jurisprudence a crime as well. Chief among these changes is the introduction of consent as the acid test of rape, as opposed to the "property rights" model, where carnal knowledge of a woman is a violation of a husband's (if married) or father's (if a minor) or woman's (if unmarried and not living under her father's covering, in other words, a fem sole) property rights. For certain, enforcement was much easier under the former regime--knotty questions of consent would give way to simple "did you go there without right?"--but such a paradigm went bye-bye when the millennia-old principle of coverture fell out of fashion. Again, clearly we do not live under a legal regime where these principles apply, and rape now means more (and less) than it used to.
Where Mr. Berge and I differ, however, is what to do about this shift and expansion in definition. He appears to advocate fighting the social trends of the last couple of hundred years tooth-and-claw, to reverse the machinations of the post-Enlightenment liberalist Cathedral's institutional capture, and restore the concept of rape to its more diminutive form. Again, I agree with him that this is a noble and worthy and desirable goal. Yet I witness the moral and legal momentum of liberalism, of which feminism is but one head of the Hydra, and conclude that a small minority of MRAs, trads, neo-trads, reactionaries, neo-reactionaries, or whatever label applies, is unlikely to succeed in a head-on assault on the hegemony of the majority and their cultural and legal jurisprudence.
Instead, I think it would be a more successful tactic to use the feminist redefinition of rape against them, by agreeing and amplifying. Yes, it does lend additional legitimacy to the feminist notion of all sexual contact without expressed uncoerced consent is rape. Unfortunately, it already is legitimate, and men's buy-in to this reality or lack thereof doesn't make it any less real. It already is the law. In this environment; I just do not envision success in standing athwart soon-to-be-history yelling "go back!" In fact, I see doing so as actually making things worse for men, not better. For if we were to follow Mr. Berge's advice, and insist that rape is something that men do to women and women can't do to men by virtue that they don't own a penis, "victims" would enjoy ever more more potent weapons to punish "offenders" as the definition of sexual assault continues to widen, the definition of consent continues to narrow, and the procedural assumption of innocence steadily erodes. All this while men continue to be kept in the proverbial Victorian box as the dirty, assumed aggressor, who is "always on", "is lucky to get any action", and is by nature dishonorable in thought and deed. I fear that doing as Mr. Berge advises would do nothing but force men further between the rock of rape culture hysteria and the hard place of received Victorian concepts of pure femininity and seedy masculinity.
With respect to liberalism, I'm of the general opinion that the only way out is through, and the topic of sexual assault is no exception. By forcing liberalists to adhere to their own rules--and by not allowing them to weasel out by crying "backlash" as they are wont to do when women are increasingly arrested for IPV--feminism's expansion of rape into sexual assault will rightly be seen as contrary to the interests of women as well as men. It is thus an attack on equalitarianism itself, by using its own weapons against it.
In this I suppose I am "go[ing] along with the feminists on this in the hope that it will backfire on them" as Mr. Berge asserts; I just judge the long-term outcomes for men will be better compared to the tactics he advises.